A conversation with a friend brought up the subject of old regrets, and he mentioned a Facebook page called "I Wish Life Had an Un-do Button".
life doesn't work like that, though. We all have regrets, and
might-have-beens. An old flame ... old arguments ... broken
relationships ... ill-considered job choices ... harsh words, or
whatever. You can't go back and change it. No amount of daydreams,
wishing, or tears will make it different.
What was, was, and you can't change that. All we have is now, and we must try to make it as good as we can.
the words that you're about to speak; one of the wisest things any
human can learn is, "Just because it goes through your head, doesn't
mean it should come out of your mouth."
Another way to put that is,
"Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your
mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.*"
If the people around you are worth keeping
around, then you must learn to speak gracefully. Don't burn your
bridges ... and you know what they say about "stepping on the little
Learn to think twice before speaking, and if you're angry, three or four times.
My friend was expressing regret for a conversation that took place in
1974, and how that had seemingly changed the course of his life. Stuff
happens, and often for good reason, but sometimes it happens because of
one's own mistakes.
If we neither learn from them nor make amends for them, then we will live a sad life.
If you love someone, tell them. Don't spend your life regretting a missed opportunity;
we've all done it, and it's not pretty. Be gracious, as often as you
can. Be polite, and smile when it's appropriate. It sounds trite, but
you never know whether your smile might be the only one that person got,
that day. It could make a huge difference to them, and costs you only a
Like I said, just a thought.